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by Elfriede Adebayo in Personal Growth Posted on 06/28/2021 06:00 AM

According to positive psychology, taking actions that have a profound meaning is one of the secrets to living better. Have you ever thought about illuminating your routine with a new light? Doing something with an important meaning makes you feel alive, and in the right place.

Living well is a daily exercise that very often depends on your personal ability and attitude to face life with the right charge of energy and vitality. A positive attitude and a healthy and balanced lifestyle not only contribute to significantly raising the quality of your days, but also to feel good and peaceful about yourself.


I’m Elfriede A. I’m the Life Coach and CEO of Diamond Outcome. Diamond Outcome is a learning platform to help you increase the quality of your life and well-being.






The secrets to living your best lifestyle are few and simple but essential. You have to open your eyes and realize that something is wrong, be determined to act on yourself, and start doing something to defend your physical, and above all, mental health.

The secrets I'm about to unveil to you are those that have been working for me, they are the things that have allowed me to live my lifestyle at the best every day; I hope they help you as well.


1. Take back your time

In everyday living, the things you have to take care of are a lot: you have to be productive at work, make the boss happy, you have to be good wives and husbands and give attention to your partner, maybe there are children to take care of, there is the house to be fixed, the mother to call, the dog to take to the vet, the bills to pay. In short, at the end of the day, even if you manage to carve out a minute for yourself, you are exhausted and unable to do anything. Finding time for yourself is, however, a very important thing. Don't wait for the weekend. Try to find some time every day to do whatever the hell you want, whatever it is.

Being obsessed with organizing time, I have gone through tons of articles and videos online, and I have often come across people who take an hour in the morning for themselves. Yes, instead of waiting for the end of the day, they force themselves to wake up early so that the very first part of the day is dedicated to themselves and not to someone else.

As soon as you wake up you are fresh and in a good mood, still immune from the cruelties of life. I know that many of you already wake up at absurd times and that waking up earlier seems crazy, but remember that you are doing it for yourself!

2. Find your calling

One of the biggest problems of our days is choosing a job not based on a vocation or passion but based on salary and the degree of security it can offer. First of all, I want to tell you that if you are not happy with your job or the life you lead, there is always time to change. You just have to find the courage to do it.

One thing that I recently discovered and that inflamed my brain is a technique that the Japanese use to understand which path to take in the workplace. A path that will allow them to support themselves economically but that will make them happy in doing so. This technique is called Ikigai and aims to find the thing that would make you feel accomplished and allow you to live peacefully and be happy for a lifetime.

The secret of Ikigai is to find that thing that:

• You are passionate about

• You are good at doing

• What people need

• For which you would be paid to do

Being able to come up with something that satisfies these four conditions is certainly not easy and takes time and a lot of thought, but it is an important secret to living your best lifestyle.

3. Be careful with your finances

Money is perhaps the greatest source of stress today. It is not possible to get rich overnight, what you have to do is try to manage your money as best you can to avoid finding yourself in unpleasant situations.

Have you ever believed that you have a lot of money in the bank or your wallet and instead discover that you have spent it? To avoid unnecessary worries, it is good to have your expenses under your control and know exactly where and how to spend your money. The best way to do this is to set a budget, or rather budgets for the various areas of your life (for example rent/mortgage, gasoline/car expenses, grocery, etc.) and respect them.

If you are constantly covered in debt, it is a good and right thing to examine your conscience and see if you are living beyond your means.

4. Learn to say NO

Living in bondage to other people's expectations is a very easy thing to do. As much as you try to be good and please everyone, sometimes it is necessary to put yourself first and say no. If you don't feel like going out, for example, it is sacrosanct to say no to your friends try not to feel guilty about it. Life can't go the way you plan it all the time and you may need some time to recharge, to be alone, or just to slouch on the sofa in peace and eat a kilo of ice cream.

If they invite you to an event but you just can't care less, don't worry about declining. It is not fair to force yourself to do something you do not like just not to offend others. Your time is precious: use it to do something that gives you joy and that makes you feel good.

You don't have to constantly run left and right, if someone asks you to do something but it seems too much to you, just say no. It's not about being rude or being selfish, it's about protecting your energy and mental health. It is about living your best lifestyle.

5. Drive away negative people

Thank God, you can choose the people you surround yourself with. It is normal, however, that from time to time you make mistakes in judgment and you discover that someone, instead of enriching your life, always and only sends you bad vibes. Classic example: colleagues. It also happens in the family.

Learn to recognize who does not make you feel good and do not have problems walking away. It is not necessary to communicate your decision: just stop hanging out with these people, and if they ask you for explanations you can always say that you are taking some time for yourself until they understand the concept and leave you alone.

6. Meditate

Meditating prevents what I call "getting anxious on your own", that is, constantly ruminating on things that have happened in the past and worrying excessively about what will happen in the future. As mindfulness teaches, the only moment that truly exists that you should worry about is now.

It is thoughts that create emotions, emotions determine your morale, your mood, which in turn influences your behavior and therefore your life and the way you face the day. Calming the mind allows you to return to a normal situation, and helps you not to be overwhelmed by your own thoughts.

Meditating is not easy at all and at first, it is quite tedious, but if you can do it daily (just start with ten minutes a day) you will see that you will benefit greatly.

7. Practice gratitude

Practicing gratitude means nothing more than reminding oneself, every day, that despite everything you are grateful. However bad things may happen, you will always have a reason to be thankful. Remembering to give thanks for what you have helps you to put everything into perspective, and keep a positive mind. Remember: you are what you think!

A good exercise is to keep a notebook and every night write down three reasons why you feel grateful that day.

And it doesn't have to be anything fancy. To give you an example, see below:

Today I feel grateful for;

• Having a healthy body that allows me to live life to the full

• Having parents who support me, even if they don't share every choice I make

• Being able to wake up this morning and able to decide what to do with my life.

And you? What are you grateful for today?

I hope that these secrets I have given you will be useful to face your life with less anxiety, with a smile, and most importantly, set your feet on the path of living your best lifestyle.





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